Hi! It’s been a while.
My life has recently become extremely exciting, what about yours?
Did anything change recently in your life?
Whether it’s a yes or a no doesn’t actually matter.
Then what does?
You do. You matter. Above all, your experience matters.
Lessons just distract you.
I’ve been around loads of people recently who told me things such as:
”You have the soul of a leader”;
“You are very calm and settled”;
“How come you don’t react to this?”
The answer is very simple: I choose where I put my energy. At all time.
But that didn’t come through lessons or because I worked hard on myself.
Actually I probably screwed up more than anybody in this world and my life used to be raw chaos doubled up with a feeling that dying would be easier than living.
I learnt a lot of lessons and closed all the doors that would not take me where I wanted to be.
But…
How could I know they would not take me there?
Another simple answer: other people say so!
They learned it, they experienced it, it doesn’t work.
Or so do they say…
The other thing that doesn’t work for me is to live by other people’s lessons.
They’re distractions. Life is made of infinite possibilities and they might all take me where I want to be.
I can read my own future within a single question and immediately find out if it’s going to work well for me or not.
Be your own compass.
Is this right and aligned with me?
Yes. This is it. This is the question.
There isn’t any secret behind it. But there is a lifetime of mastery to get to the right answer.
After following all the methods, techniques, pathways and secrets that coaches, consultants, entrepreneurs, artists and personal development gurus could throw at my face, I quit social media.
I also quit my business.
I quit fighting what was there.
And I started feeling the answer.
Here’s a quick tip: if you have a good reason, this is probably not the right way.
Because if it were, you would never have to justify or explain it. Would you?
You don’t justify why you drink water.
But if you smoke, you might say something like “It helps me relax.” or “I know I have to stop but (…)”.
I came to realize that if the answer is right for me, there is no reason behind it.
But doing the right thing is not always easy.
Social pressure will kill you.
It killed me.
Not my body, not my heart.
Just my desires, my dreams and my joy.
So I knew how to accomplish everything and I felt like nothing could ever be accomplished.
Until I started following my right path without justifying anything.
Only when I could show it was the right path did I connect the dots for others as well, telling them things such as : “do you remember when I did this for no obvious reason and it seemed counter-productive?”
So they could learn that doing the right thing is not always about the obvious choice, decision or the rational thing.
It just feels good.
Or doesn’t feel as wrong as the other options.
What is pretty cool is that this question taught me how to recognize useful information that my brain couldn’t grasp.
Such as “get out of the bus at the next stop” when I planned to go down two stops later.
Only to discover that I would have missed my connection if I had stayed in this bus one more minute.
I know the feeling by heart, maybe you do too.
“Take your umbrella”. A flash-fast thought against all odds, in the middle of a sunshine.
Until you get swamped by the pouring rain 2 hours later, regretting not to have your umbrella with you.
I learned how to follow this feeling, and so can you.
Try it with whatever decision you have to make in your life by now.
If you get it “wrong” you will learn how it works for you.
If you get it “right” you will learn how it works for you.
It’s a win or win game to play.
You’re not alone.
I know this little voice is sometimes hard to follow.
Fear, trauma, discomfort, the lack of self-confidence, doubt or not knowing how to let go might keep you away from following it most of the time.
I was there too.
Which is why I am offering some of my presence in
’s Virtual Campus.Come sit on my bench! We’ll discuss whatever is holding you back and kick it out of your life once and for all.
See you soon (or not),
Florian